play in the dirt

Friday, July 16, 2010

Danis



The first memory I have of my cousin Neddie (Glenna was my dad Ned's sister—lots of Neds and Glennas in the Collett/Vare clan), was in the driveway at our house in RI when I was about 6. He was grownup already and had shown up in the coolest sports car. An Alfa Romeo. He had a contagious grin and gave my sister Glenna and me each a ride around the block—with the roof down! That began my love of cousin Neddie—the first and only guy I ever loved for his car. And although our paths rarely crossed over the years, he was a bright and warm spot in my heart.

In the 70s I carried a green fringed suede shoulderbag with an exquisite beaded pattern on it that Neddie had made. A connection with my hippie cousin out west with vague stories of him living in a schoolbus or Aspen or a ranch.

In 1982, my groom, Wayne, and I took our honeymoon in Colorado, and one of our destinations was Colorado Springs where Neddie, Luz, and little Cassidy were living. Two moments stand out. We were going to walk down the street for pizza and Cassidy didn't want to wear shoes. Rather than just putting shoes on him despite the protest (as I would've been inclined to do), we observed a rational discussion between an adult and a 3-year old. Unheard of. It was concluded that he could walk barefoot to the restaurant, but had to put shoes on to go inside because the sign said so. Cassidy was fine with that and off we went—happily. We thoughtfully thought, Huh. And that event was an example we drew on in raising Ellie. And as with many other families, Ned, Luz and their book helped give us the courage and inspiration to homeschool.

The other moment was after we newlyweds (with one week's experience under our belt) regaled Ned and Luz on the wonders of marriage, Ned said, "We're going to get married when we've been together for 25 years. As a celebration." We thought, Huh? And I think that's about the way they did it. Tried and true.

Ned remains an image of warmth, honesty, creativity, incisive thinking in a freeform format, thought-provoking discussion, and many other things—a cantankerous ol' bat with bright blue eyes and a winning grin. Love you, Neddie.

Danie

Sunday, July 11, 2010

Bill


I live about half a block from the property Ned owned on Neale St. in Aspen.

I first visited Aspen in 1968. On the day after Xmas I was walking around the East End & I stopped to admire to Ned's complex of funky outbuildings & Victorian house. Someone said "hi, come on in". It was Ned. The house was full of people, some still grogged out from a wild Xmas party the night before.

Like Ned, I too was an architect. I was then living in Chicago & he was most interested in hearing my accounts of the recent disastrous Democratic convention. What a gentle & kind man. We bonded immediately & while not close friends I will always blame him for making me realize that I too might be able to make it Aspen.

Ned had a unique & quite ability to inspire. He had a lifestyle of such truth & integrity that it came through immediately. I moved here the very next year & have been here ever since.

Thanks Ned!

My heartfelt condolences go out to his family & friends.

Best
Bill

Saturday, July 10, 2010

Holly Lynn Danyliw


Ned was a guiding light for me. He gave me courage to stand in my beliefs and not worry about what others said about how I wanted to navigate my son, Andrew's life through homeschooling/unschooling.

Coming to Guilford and your home, I would feel safe again and yes, at home. Like an alien finding her alien planet and Ned being the leader of this planet. On this planet, the energy of it was so green, round, wooded, beautiful flowers, books, plenty of light and most of all, abundant, radiant life.

I will never forget this time in my life and the power of Ned's integrity and openness.

The first time I met Ned was at a homeschooling conference at Manchester Community College. I walked over to Ned and Luz's Unschooling table with my son, Andrew and Ned proceeded to ask Andrew about schooling and life.

I remember Andrew's eyes lighting up listening to an adult who obviously stood in his Truth.

As we left the table, I turned to Ned and said, "you realize he is changed forever now. I will never get him back to schooling and Ned, replied, Good!" with a sparkle and a gleam in his eyes. And I thought to myself: Oh, boy, I am screwed.>>>>

Blessings to you, Luz, your son, Cassidy and the rest of the family

Holly Lynn Danyliw, Andrew Danyliw and Pete Danyliw

Sarah Loughran


There is not a game of golf which I play that I do not think of Ned, nor a full moon upon which I do not think of you and your garden.
The golf course is Adare, in Ireland.

Thursday, September 24, 2009

a warrior on the field of ideas


Although I first came to know Ned politically, my affection for him and his views transcended politics. I say this because I always believed Ned was a warrior on the field of ideas. On the battlefields of education and ecology, he was one of my heroes in particular - always there when you needed him but never expecting anything in return. Ned was true to his beliefs. He never parsed words or phrases for political gain. There is so much for so many who engage in political debate today to learn from him - especially when so few say what they mean, and mean what they say.

I miss Ned,

Frank Grundman

Wednesday, September 9, 2009

Freak Power



"Getting elected to make laws for other people is not like me," he said. "Apartments were going up fast and us tree huggers had to fight against inevitability."
For Vare, his compulsion to run for office came not from seeking attention, but to preserve the town he came to love via his travel across the country. His 1970 quote in The Aspen Times sounded like something that could be said today.

from:
Freak Power: Ned Vare reflects on a special time in American politics and culture
By: Eric Montgomery, Editor
05/08/2007
Clinton Recorder

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Monday, September 7, 2009

Bruce

Ned was working on five books these last years. One was called "How to Help Your Wife." Another was how to design your own home. He was writing an autobiography and working on a collection of his articles about schools and learning.

This last book has several possible titles: School Is Hell; Racoon Hands; A Dangerous Man. Our friend Bruce Thomas wrote the following introduction to the book.

Let’s say that institutionalized schooling (call it School) has colonized learning. Here’s a thought experiment combined with time travel: Superimpose School on a 17th century band of Lakotas. What you’d have for young braves is a syllabus of courses like “Prairie Craft 203: Crawling across the grass downwind of the buffalo”; or Basic Bow and Arrow 235, subdivided into subunits like 235-C: Arrow Pointing and Release.” And so on. The courses would be taught by special teachers brought onto the tribal grounds solely for course instruction, such courses based on a filleting of the wholeness of buffalo hunting into neat skill slices. None of the instructors has ever actually engaged in buffalo hunts but each had taken the requisite courses given by buffalo hunt virgins who had themselves been certified by other buffalo hunt virgins. Young braves who failed to pass 70% of their courses would be classified as tribal defects and expected to slink away from the encampment in the dead of night. (The slow descent of the tribe into starvation resulting from buffalo hunt failure would go—as an exercise in pedagogical tact-- unrecorded in the annals.)

Learning is what people do. School is what is done to them. Happily, sometimes the two intersect. But, these days, not very often. Education is very solemn, very big business, very big politics. So the still small voice saying “ Hey, wait a minute, what’s going on here?” doesn’t get much of a hearing.

Ned Vare is one of those voices. I need to make the usual admissions here. I’ve known Ned since 1969. I am not objective. But who the hell wants to be objective about children? The single most important ingredient in a happy childhood is at least one adult who is irrationally committed to that child. Irrationally committed. I remember very clearly when I got hold of this insight. I was at a playground with my daughter and there was a mother there with her child. Her child was a royal pain in the ass: willful, stubborn, loud. The mother serenely abided the widely varying contours of her daughter’s behavior and, when playground time was over, she scooped daughter up in her arms and took off for home. I left the playground confident that the willful child would , in the course of time, and within the irrational embrace of an unwavering parental commitment, grow up into a reasonably decent human being.

Schooling, by the severest of contrasts, is a triumph of rationality, the Mount Everest of tidiness. It defines when children start formal learning. It organizes them into groups defined by age. It defines what they should know and be able to do at each age. It has tests that purport to reveal what they know and can do at each age. It works basically like a passenger railroad. Children are loaded into a car marked first grade. (Other children are loaded into cars marked 2nd through 8 th grades). The train pulls out of the station and into a tidy curricular landscape. The teaching conductor in each car calls the children’s attention to what they must learn from the landscape; periodically the testing conductor comes through to conduct the assessment that determines whether or not the children will pass onto the 2nd grade car. In the best of all possible worlds, all the children move along yearly until they reach the 8th grade car, where they receive a diploma (wearing gown and cap) that enables them to pass on to another railroad line called high school.

And so it goes. It’s unassailably logical. It’s also utterly crazy. Ned calls attention to the craziness. Although he will occasionally finger a specific individual for some particularly egregious piece of silliness, his focus is for the most part on the systemic craziness. He has always been wont to say that everybody is doing the best he can. I think it is fair to say that his “everybody” includes schoolteachers. What he writes about is a system that is a triumph of adult rationality. But the logic of childhood is emphatically not the logic of adulthood. The learning of children is not linear, not sequential, not conformable to external timetables. It is driven by passions and engagements. It is often not predictable and most of the time it is not captured by adult measurements—particularly the kinds of learning that entail real and durable understanding.

Ned’s voice is thus the voice of dissent and the origins of such dissent is always an interesting question. By dissent I mean fundamental disagreement with some societal fundamental. I have a hypothesis (i.e., a theory in short pants) about the origins of Ned’s voice of dissent. The hypothesis comes in three parts. The first part is a basic state of cosmic pissed offness. How it comes about, I do not know. Some are born to it, others bred to it. Whatever its origins, it can exist in a condition of latency until it gets activated by a trigger, which is often some specific event.

In Ned’s case the trigger may have been an event early in his post-Yale career, when he was teaching elementary school in New Hampshire. There was in the school a boy whom we would now understand to be autistic. He was ill-treated by the other children. But by Ned as well, as he recalls it: “”That boy had every reason to hate everyone there for the way they treated him. Including me. We didn’t know what to do with him. That’s one of the things I am deeply ashamed of, still today. I was 23 then, I’m now 74 and I’m still more than ever ashamed of the treatment he got at our hands.”

What got activated, I think, was a sense of how justice relates in a profound way to childhood. George Dennison in The Lives of Children is one of the few to have written about the relation of justice to the lives of children generally and to their lives in school specifically. Anyone with a reasonably unimpaired memory of his/her own childhood will recall that constant refrain from childhood: “That’s not fair!”

The third item in the recipe for dissent is the Authorizing Text. The text usually is written—an article, a book, a speech. But it can also be a live voice. In Ned’s case I suspect it was both. The written text was that of John Holt (How Children Learn, How Children Fail). Just around the time America was getting into its Cold War snit about the state of American education, Holt was coming out with books that fingered School as a major impediment to learning. Holt’s voice was supplemented by that of the woman who was to become his wife, Luz, a disillusioned teacher. The two together had the effect of completing the process by which Ned became a voice of dissent in the matter of School.

Peggy Clifford, who has been a friend of Ned longer than I, has written a précis of his life that in its few deft words of portraiture goes a fair distance toward explaining what it is that gives these pages their distinctive heft and pitch. I end with her words:

Ned has spent his life learning—how to paint, how to design and make furniture, how to play golf (even though his mother was arguably the greatest woman golfer in the world—enough to discourage any red-blooded American boy from even looking at a golf club), how to run a ranch, how a golf swing works (it’s a spiral, not a circle). So when a man who has spent his life learning spends ten years learning how school does what it does to people, and why, the result is apt to be explosive and revelatory.